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The Divorce Allies Podcast
Welcome to the Divorce Allies Podcast, your go-to resource for navigating the intricate landscape of divorce. In this engaging podcast and video series, we delve deep into the complex world of divorce mediation and litigation alongside a diverse team of experts.
Our lineup includes seasoned financial professionals, business valuators, mortgage specialists, as well as seasoned parenting and relationship coaches, as well as a team that can help you kickstart your next chapter in life.
Join us as we embark on a comprehensive exploration of every facet of the divorce journey, from the financial intricacies to the emotional well-being of all involved parties.
Our episodes tackle common yet complex divorce situations, offering valuable insights and practical advice to empower you through every stage of the process.
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Prenups Aren’t Cold. They’re Smart. How to Protect your Future Without Killing the Romance.
Welcome to the Divorce Allies Podcast—a show where we break down the complex world of divorce with clarity, compassion, and expert insight. From business valuations and alimony to mindset, real estate, and financial prep, we guide you through the entire settlement process with the help of lawyers, divorce mortgage specialists, parenting plan experts, and more.
I’m Melissa Gragg, a financial mediator and business valuation expert. And today, I’m joined by Lisa Zeiderman—a seasoned family law attorney and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA®). Our topic? Prenups.
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We’re diving deep into what prenups really are, why they’re not just for the wealthy, and how they can be a powerful act of protection and clarity—especially for women.
5 Key Takeaways:
A prenup is a legal contract that protects your financial future—not a sign you expect divorce.
It sets clear expectations around assets, income, alimony, and even family inheritances.
Prenups are not just for the rich.
In fact, they can be even more important for those with limited assets—because you can't afford to fight later.
You’re already entering a contract when you marry—this just customizes it.
Without a prenup, your marriage defaults to your state’s divorce laws.
You must have your own legal representation.
Even if your future spouse offers to “share” a lawyer—don’t. Separate representation protects you.
Timing matters.
Don’t wait until the week of the wedding. Start the prenup conversation early to reduce pressure and ensure you’re truly protected.
Questions answered in this episode:
1. What is a prenup and why do I need one?
A prenup (prenuptial agreement) is a legal contract that outlines how finances, assets, debts, and future support will be handled in marriage and divorce. You need one to protect yourself, create clarity, and avoid costly legal battles later.
2. Are prenups only for wealthy people?
No—prenups are for anyone who wants financial clarity. They are especially helpful if you have student loans, expect an inheritance, own a business, or plan to leave your job to raise a family.
3. Can a prenup protect my business or inheritance?
Yes. You can outline how a business, family inheritance, or separate property will be treated—especially if you want to avoid them being split during divorce.
4. What should I do if I feel pressured to sign a prenup?
Don’t sign under pressure. Ask for time. Get your own lawyer (your fiancé can even help pay for it). A rushed or coerced prenup may not hold up in court, but proving that later is difficult and expensive.
5. Can a prenup include rules about cheating or infidelity?
Technically, yes—but these clauses are hard to enforce and rarely hold up in court. Focus on financial clarity, not moral judgments, in the agreement.